Phase 3: Learn how to stop. There are times on the quest when you must simply go on vacation and be unreachable. Leave it all behind. If your loved one is in the midst of a bender they won’t even notice. But get away. Enjoy nature. Check out museums and other cultures.
Whatever you do, work to not think about your loved one for a season. This does not make you evil. But it helps you to recreate your soul, your willingness to endure. Those living in addiction count on you to get weak and give into their endless requests for money or other help. All help must be done thoughtfully with an end toward redemption and healing. If you find yourself giving money or other helps to your loved one out of guilt you are in trouble.